Do you feel like your insecurities and negative self-talk are holding you back? Do you want to learn how you can improve your self-confidence and overall wellbeing? Building your self-confidence might sound scary if you’re not used to pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, but it doesn’t have to be.
Self-confidence lays robust foundations for healthy, meaningful relationships with others, as well as deeper emotional connections. It also has a positive impact on our communication skills. In this blog, we’ll explore what influences our self-confidence and how you can give it a boost.
What is self-confidence?
Self-confidence is our belief in our own abilities, whether in work or in our personal lives. It’s the trust we have in our judgements: I know that this is a good idea. I am confident that I will be able to do this. Self-confidence has a cyclical effect. If we are pleased with our achievements, then we feel more motivated to work harder to reach our goals, because we believe we are capable of success.
In this way, our level of self-confidence depends upon our previous experiences. If we performed poorly, our confidence is diminished. But, if we do well, it blossoms, and we believe more in our ability to succeed in the next challenge we face. Of course, life isn’t full of wins, so it’s also built on our ability to overcome obstacles and be at peace with our defeats. When this doesn’t happen, it’s easier to dwell on our mistakes and correlate our future performance with that one bad experience before we even try.
Ultimately, self-confidence doesn’t correlate with our actual ability. You may be better at a task than you believe that you are.
The impact of self-confidence on self-esteem
Self-confidence is one of the key pieces in our overall confidence jigsaw, along with self-esteem and self-efficacy. Self-efficacy relates to our ability to influence our life, whereas self-esteem is connected to our worth. Improving your self-confidence can fuel your self-esteem, which boosts your overall belief in yourself.
- Self-esteem is an integral feature of Maslow’s famous hierarchy of needs
- Nathaniel Brandon explores in his book that self-esteem is central to our values, responses and goals
- Studies have shown that our level of self-esteem predicts our relationship satisfaction
Building emotional connections with self-confidence
Self-confidence feeds into our relationships and emotional connections, and one study refers to self-esteem as a ‘sociometer’, an internal monitor to how we are valued or devalued as a partner. In essence, when you are confident and relaxed, others will feel at ease around you and mirror this in their interactions.
So, how can you boost your self-confidence?
Imagining yourself achieving success or being a more confident version of yourself is a powerful way of making positive changes in your life. It can improve self-confidence by combatting your perceptions of prior negative experiences and helping you to believe you can do it. You can find out more about visualisation for success in our blog.
Through self-compassion, you can calm the critical thoughts that knock back your self-confidence. Used effectively, self-compassion can play an integral role in lifting your self-confidence by helping you to not dwell on a mistake you made.
Feeling like you don’t belong can have a damaging effect on your self-confidence. As it’s rooted in our belief of what we’re capable of, imposter syndrome can disrupt this and trick us into thinking we can’t achieve a goal we’ve set for ourselves.
Do you want to know how to feel better about yourself?
Are you ready to self-analyse and discover new ways to manage your self-to-self relationship? With this course, you’ll reconnect with your mind and body, heal old wounds, and learn to love yourself again. Instead of doubts pervading your mind, you’ll feel secure and valued, helping strengthen your relationships with others too!