“Self-esteem comes quietly, like the truth.” – Amity Gaige

Success is something we all dream of, but while some actively strive for it and do everything possible to achieve it, others are content to simply daydream and wonder why those dreams never come true. There’s a popular expression, ‘thoughts become things’, which has lulled many into believing that all they need to do in order to achieve the success they desire is envision it. To believe it is possible. And that this belief, and repeatedly thinking about what you want to achieve, is enough to manifest it.

While it’s true that there is a lot of benefit to focusing on your objectives and thinking about them regularly, the reason this ‘manifesting’ method works is because the more we think about our goals, the more action we take towards achieving them. The more focused we are – through repeated thought, consideration, planning, and dreaming – the more committed we are to the actions we take, and the more effort we pour into those actions. 

Thoughts become things, but only when we actively work towards achieving our goals and objectives.

One of the biggest blocks standing in between thought and action (and consequently between you upleveling from daydreamer to a genuinely successful person), is self-esteem.

Your level of self-esteem largely determines your level of self-belief. When you struggle to believe yourself capable of achieving success and doing great things with your life, finding the motivation to take action can seem futile.

Yes, you want a big life full of wonderful things, but you’re never going to get there, are you? 

After all, you don’t really deserve those things, you’re not worthy of them, you aren’t good enough, clever enough…

So many things we tell ourselves that essentially boil down to the belief we are not enough, in some ways, or too much, in others – too old, too young, too fat, too thin, too stupid, too lazy…

The negativity of our own self-talk is frequently our undoing, sabotaging our efforts at success before we’ve ever really had a chance to start trying.

Fortunately, low self-esteem is something that you can work on, and one of the best ways to do this is to focus on raising your self-awareness. Here’s how to easily boost your self-awareness for better self-esteem and a more successful life…

What Is Self-Awareness?

Self-awareness is an important quality to have as an individual. The majority of people spend their lives focusing on others, and as a result we don’t evaluate our own internal standards and values. When this happens, we lose track of our current behaviours and struggle to understand that, when things don’t go the way we envisioned, it’s usually because we have unrealistic perceptions or expectations of our current thoughts, feelings and behaviours.

It then becomes difficult to envision the path ahead of us, as we never seem to end up where we intended, but don’t truly understand why. We cast about for external explanations – and often find them – and focus on fixing these, once again neglecting to look inward. 

Improving self-awareness is an amazing way to guide yourself through life’s challenges, overcome difficulties, and get a clear understanding of situations past, present and future. 

It’s all about acknowledging your inner world to help you understand yourself and others. You choose to accept your thoughts, emotions, and particular reactions to circumstances in life, while interpreting them without judgement. These are the components that come together to make the blueprints of your characteristics, abilities, and personality. 

Why Is Self-Awareness Important?

Let’s put it into perspective: imagine you have a huge presentation to give for work, in front of an audience of at least 1,000 people. You’re really worried about it, nervous in the runup, anxious immediately beforehand, and constantly questioning your abilities. You feel overwhelmed by the challenge, and aren’t certain you will be able to pull it off.

But, once you start speaking, you find your feet, and by the time you’ve finally finished, you realise that you were capable of doing it all after all. Your confidence grows, and the next time you have to do something similar, you’re not as worried about it. 

Conversely, if your anxiety got the best of you and you didn’t do well during the presentation, you will come away having had your fears confirmed. You’re not capable, you don’t have the abilities needed, you’re not good enough.

In reality, your anxiety was responsible for your poor performance. You worried so much that you wouldn’t be able to do it, that you weren’t able to do it, and you’re even more anxious about future events of a similar nature.

A similar thing happens if you’re stung by a wasp. You feel the pain of that sting, and the next time you see a wasp, anticipate the same pain. You become anxious and frightened at the sight of the wasp and panic, wafting at it and agitating it, causing it to sting you. Had you remained calm, and simply moved away from the wasp, you wouldn’t have been stung again, but the expectation of being stung caused you to act in a manner that brought about another painful encounter. 

It’s these cause-and-effect thought patterns that make self-awareness so important. 

We tend to draw simple lines between outcomes and what we believe to be their cause. Without self-awareness, we’re often very mistaken in our beliefs. The true cause is something very different, and our efforts to change outcomes fail as a result of these misconceptions.

Learning who you are, how you feel, and what behaviours you have is vital for improving your self-esteem. You begin to recognise your own experiences and thoughts, and acknowledge them. This acknowledgement and understanding of self-awareness is incredibly powerful for several reasons…

Exploring Outside Of Your Comfort Zone…

As the saying goes, learn to walk before you try to run. 

It’s good advice, but sometimes we take it to heart a little too much. You learn to walk, but never quite get beyond that. Your life is spent doing nothing but walk, instead of gaining all the experiences and adventures that come from running, climbing, exploring. 

Taking a moment to step outside your comfort zone is an amazing way to become more self-aware and gives you a well-deserved self-esteem boost. 

Trying out new things, whether that’s rock-climbing, cooking, or traveling, can really help transform your perspective on life and help you to understand yourself as a person. As you develop new skills and hobbies, or potentially even start a new career, you begin to build up your confidence in those areas. You learn more about yourself and become more aware of how strong or weak you are in certain areas. 

Developing clarity on those strengths and weaknesses means you can focus your energy on the things you’re good at, as well as working on areas where you need to improve. 

This realistic perception of yourself can be very beneficial. You may notice your body reacting in a particular way as it tries to tackle a problem or situation that isn’t typically one of your strengths. But because you’ve become more aware of your body and have explored outside of your comfort zone, you can try and help that feeling you’re experiencing. You start navigating through these difficult situations and you begin to deal with the emotional reactions that are often attached. 

In the end, you are more likely to figure out the best route to go down to resolve any problems. As each problem is diminished you become even more confident in handling challenging tasks. 

Increasing Your Business Acumen…

Making decisions in the business world is just as important as in your personal life. Having self-awareness can help you do just that. The more resilient you are in stressful situations, especially at work, the better your decisions will become under pressure. 

When you make those difficult or pressured decisions, you can view them more clearly and again you will be more willing to continue to explore outside of your comfort zone. You can determine what you need to do to achieve optimal results in every aspect of your work. 

Managing Your Emotional Intelligence…

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the ability to recognise and understand emotions in others and yourself and plays a big part in developing self-awareness. Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence actively recognises the key correlation between EQ and self-awareness, both of which are crucial in driving positivity and empathy. 

Once you start building your self-awareness, you can begin to look at your EQ and look at the relationship between them both as a whole. 

Why You Should Boost Self-Awareness…

Having self-awareness isn’t something that develops in a short period of time, it simply grows as you invest more time into it. As you flourish, the benefits change and it can transform the way you move through life. Here are some of the best benefits of self-awareness…

Better Relationships…

When life is a bit blurry and your thoughts are cloudy, it can be hard to determine exactly what you want or need from your relationships. Working with a partner, friends, or family members and understanding their needs just as much as yours is an important aspect of self-awareness. Having that recognition can help you nurture those relationships. 

Effective Communication…

As much as you will benefit from better relationships, you will also benefit from effective communication. The ability to achieve a clear sense of what you believe in and whether that is the same as that of a partner, a work colleague, or friend. Once you know yourself, you will learn how to communicate your thoughts and feelings in an appropriate way that is honest and respectful. 

Increased Productivity…

Procrastination is a common problem associated with self-awareness and until you acknowledge it is a problem, you can’t resolve it. Having the awareness to recognise when you’re purposefully avoiding something can motivate you to dig down into the reasons why. Resolving the issue will help you become more productive and successful. You begin to eliminate any issues and because of that, your dull mood significantly improves.


How To Boost Self-Esteem…

There are various types of self-awareness that you can take note of to help you battle the woes of everyday life. That worry of never being good enough or capable enough to achieve the targets set by others and yourself will be demolished when you achieve high self-esteem and awareness. 

Here are 6 self-awareness examples for you to follow to boost your self-esteem and awareness…

#1 Take Control Of Your Negative Voice…

Your negative voice can sometimes take too much control over your life. It’s needed to help you make critical decisions but when it has too much of a hold over you, it can hinder you in life. You face the consequences of being overly-critical about yourself and this going forward can be a serious problem.

The way to work around it is to take back that control. When you’re having internal conversations, work on changing your attitude and make that voice more positive. Prevent those harsh and overly critical thoughts by replacing them with more forgiving, practice thoughts that help you find a solution for any problems you have. 

#2 Discuss With Your Friends And Family…

If you’re struggling to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses look for honesty from your friends and family. They’re most likely going to know you the best and will be able to decipher what you are best at and what you may need to improve on. 

Work on creating a checklist with them or a rating scale on listed areas. 

Once you’ve asked a couple of people you can check everyone’s answers and determine a collective result. 

#3 Stop Making Comparisons…

The most difficult task is to stop comparing yourself to others as this will only work negatively in creating self-awareness and boosting your self-esteem. In this case, the only person you need to worry about is yourself. You only need to be good enough for yourself. 

Don’t compare yourself to your friends, family, or anyone surrounding you. We make our own destinies and pathways for ourselves and achieve it in the best way you can. Set your own goals and objectives and ensure that you only focus on yourself. 

#4 Create Positive Vibes In Your Environment…

It is important to note that as much as it is only you that you need to care about, in times of need when you look for support it is nice to have someone there. Surround yourself with people who will only love and support your goals and values. If you receive criticism, only accept it if it is constructive, otherwise remove yourself from that negative environment. 

There are various groups online and offline that will empower you and support your journey, if I you don’t have that support currently surrounding you. 

#5 Keep A Positive Mental Attitude…

Maintaining a positive mental attitude is a difficult thing to do, but showering yourself in positive messages and searching for ways to flip negative situations and see the positives is a great way to start. Adding inspiring quotes and positive notes around your house and working environment can give you a lift through the day. 

#6 Make Journaling A Daily Habit…

Journaling is a great way to boost your self-awareness by looking at yourself objectively. Start each day writing down your plan for today and just before bed, note down everything you’ve achieved. Treat it as if it were a mini diary, nobody else has to read it, it’s personal to you and you can write whatever you like. Include all of your achievements, your future goals and objectives, and where you see yourself in 5 years time.  


Explore The Wonders Of Having High Self-Esteem…

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